1. Don't start the conversation, join the with a very short agreement & question = For example. Paul says. "Lebran James is the greatest player ever." Your reply should be . " I agree but what about Koby, Shag, M ichael.... This approach will ease
2. If you need to make the first move always start off with the self interest of the person or the person pets, property, house , car or children, never with their, bling, clothes or looks, sneak that in, in bit and pieces during the conversation. For example. " I love your pet, what kind is she". You may sneak in 'I love that dress. It's a Donna Karen?"
3. Be quick to assist or help out
4. Take the leadership role whenever possible, even if you are unsure